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Stephen McManus believes Motherwell have done all the right things to deliver a successful youth academy.
McManus was part of the Scotland squad that featured at Star Sixes, valiantly fighting for a joint third place finish in the star-studded tournament.
His focus now returns to Motherwell, where he coaches at various levels, from U18s, to the first team and the former Scotland international says the club have the right staff working with the different groups at Motherwell.
“I’ve been working at all different stages at the club, from youths to the first team I’m not really in the academy as much myself, I’m based at Fir Park. I am dealing with the academy for about an hour and a half a day, but the people at the club have been great with them.
“Steven Hammell and David Clarkson are based at Braidhurst, whilst I’m based at Fir Park. It’s good to have people in the right areas developing footballers for the first team.”
Motherwell have several young academy graduates in their team, with Chris Cadden, Allan Campbell, and David Turnbull all regular features in Stephen Robinson’s matchday squad. 16-year old Stuart McKinstry was named on the bench for the Steelmen’s Boxing Day fixture, highlighting the pathway to the first team for young stars.
McManus hopes to not only produce players who will play for Motherwell, but stars that will go on to become household names.
“We want to grow players that want to play for their country and play at the highest stage they possibly can. We have people that are ambitious all the way throughout the club, and these people are helping to drive the club forward.
“Whatever team you’re in, obviously the goal is the first team, but ultimately the aim has to be to play for your country and play in the biggest games you can.”
McManus thinks Fir Park boss Robinson is a massive part in this motivation for youngsters. He has seen the Northern Irishmen deliver the important message of youth development at Fir Park first hand.
“The manager really drives the message to our youths. He wants them in the first team, so he can sell them on, and see them play for their country, wherever there from. The fans demand good players, so through our academy, we try and produce good talent.”
Former England goalkeeper David James believes that money has its pros and cons for youth development, but thinks the modern game allows young players to grow and mature.
The ex-Three Lions stopper was in Glasgow for the Star Sixes tournament, which his side eventually won, beating the Rest of The World 3-2 in the final. James spoke before the final day of games about how hard it was for him to break into squads as a youngster.
“There’s a boy I’ve been speaking to whilst I’ve been here, who I used to play with in my school boy team at Watford. I didn’t recognize him because it was a few years ago now. At that stage in football though, we had four apprentices at Watford.
“These schoolboys played with the youth team, so the opportunities were difficult back then because there were less spaces to fill. The influx of money means more players can be afforded opportunities”
With more time being given for players to develop, it has given young stars a greater period to grow, as both a footballer and a person. James offers Southampton goalkeeper Angus Gunn as a prime example of this.
“Players like Angus Gunn. Gunn is 24, and prior to his spell at Norwich last year, he hadn’t played a professional game. In a sense, it’s took him till 22 years old to make a professional appearance. You would never have got away with that 20 years ago. There’s more numbers in the game, but there is more space to get into a better position.”
James feels that an extended growth period in academies are a great way for youth prospects to fully prosper in modern football, but knows how hard it can be to break through, regardless of the circumstances.
“The money has allowed people to grow, rather than the difficulty to get into a starting 11. I think it’s given people longer periods to develop. Smaller clubs suffer though, because they haven’t got the money to hand out equal opportunities.”
“It’s never easy, when you do the numbers it’s something like 2,500 positions that have to be filled. That’s not many, and when you've got players like Joe Cole who have had long careers, sometimes these positions don’t come about very often.”
Macfarlane, from Fife, had set herself the target of running a lap of the pitch at the national football stadium after months of gruelling physiotherapy and on the 4th December, she reached her goal.
It hasn't come without hardship though, and Macfarlane has suffered more in the past three years than anyone could possibly imagine. In 2015, Kim was diagnosed with a rare bladder condition called Fowler's Syndrome, which affects the ability of young women to pass water normally.
Living with this incurable disease is extremely difficult and it came to a head for Kim, when in 2016 she tried to take her life.
Kim reached out to YFS in an effort to inform everyone of the effects of Fowler's Syndrome, as well as to thank two specific charities who greatly helped her through this very tough period in her life.
"On the 17th of March 2015 I went in for surgery on my nose having previously broke it while playing football. After the operation I had some difficulties passing urine and ended up in retention. I ended coming home from the hospital with a urethral catheter," said Kimberley when contacting YFS.
I was perfectly healthy (bar the broken nose) before going in for the operation. Skip forward to the present day I now have a suprapubic catheter and I am holding out for a urostomy.
"Because of this my mental health deteriorated when everything came to a head on 22nd August 2016, after being sectioned I ran away to a bridge and jumped off. I ended up breaking two vertebrae in my back and had a horrible brace for three months."
The first charity Kimberley wanted to thank was The Express Group. Based in Fife, they have been helping people in the region for 40 years and Macfarlane is clear about the impact they have had on her life.
"I can safely say that without this group I really don’t know where I would be. They have stood by me through some of the darkest days of my life.
"They are a registered charity and rely on donations/funding to be able to deliver a safe space for anyone aged over 18 to attend."
The second charity she wanted to thank was Support Within Sport, which was launched in 2016 by former Inverness CT manager Richie Foran, in an effort to provide help for players and coaches struggling with mental health issues.
"Before February I had never heard of them. After a dip in my mental health they got in touch with me and wanted to offer some help. So I met up with a doctor who managed to put in place physiotherapy at Hampden Park.
"For me football has always been a massive part of my life and to have that taken away from me left a hole in my heart. But thanks to my physio Joanne I am building up my goal of trying to get back to playing football. Considering I was struggling to walk, let alone run meant we had a massive task on our hands. But amazingly she has stuck by my side and inspires me to be the best I can."
"So really, these two charities give me hope. Hope for a better tomorrow. For a better future. So I just want to thank everyone in my life for helping and encouraging me to be who I want to be."
If you would like to support these two charities, or if you are suffering with mental health issues yourself, you can find out more by following the links below:
"After an agonising wait (which would be one of many in the weeks to follow), we were told that the scans and tests were all clear however more intrusive surgery was a necessity. Ruaridh was back in the operating theatre five weeks after his initial operation - this time the surgeons removed his right hand pectoral muscles (both major and minor) plus some lymph nodes from under his right arm.
"The surgery went well and the surgeons ended up leaving the muscle above his clavicle knowing how sporty he was – Ruaridh had been selected to represent Scotland surfing in the British Cup but was unable to go but had been playing football for Edinburgh City 2006s the day before the operation (assisting with an amazing cross to enable his team to win through to the next round of the Scottish Cup!)."
The next stage of Ruaridh's treatment involves him undergoing something called 'Proton Beam Therapy', a treatment which, as of now, is only available to Ruiaridh in the United States.
Elaine went on to say, "We’re currently in the midst of our next period of uncertainty whilst a decision is being made as to whether Ruaridh will get NHS funding to allow him to be sent to America for Proton Beam Therapy as we don’t currently have a Proton Beam centre open in the UK – one is currently being built in Manchester however isn’t scheduled to be opened until sometime next Spring/Summer.
"If the go ahead is given then the NHS will fund the treatment, accommodation and flights for Ruaridh, Martin and myself plus a small amount of living expenses however it wouldn’t fully cover our costs plus also won't include taking Ruaridhs siblings, Tamzin and Owen. This would be a horrendous blow for Ruaridh as he's very close to both his siblings and at this moment in time needs them more than ever.
"Having always given to charities, we never thought we'd ever have to do any sort of fund-raising for our own family however we are going to need help to fund Ruaridhs treatment in America (assuming it gets the go ahead) and to ensure all his family are around him to help support him.
"We have been overwhelmed by the generosity, kindness and support we have received from everyone and, as part of this fundraising, we would like to give something back to both Teenage Cancer Trust and CLIC Sargent who are charity funded organisations and provide amazing support to children with cancer and their families."
If you would like to help Ruaridh and his family out during this very difficult time for them, you can donate to their crowdfunding page here.
A parent’s nightmare in many ways. In training, your child consistently out performs other players, looks strong and confident, kicks, throws and hits the ball better than most, but the moment the competition element kicks in they do a disappearing act faster than Houdini!
For coaches it can be confusing, but for parents it is both confusing and painful and often parents do not know where to turn. So what can you do as a sporting parent?
You could gently encourage them, allow them to go at their own pace, which would all seem sensible strategies but many parents can struggle at this stage and often resort to yelling or threatening.
Regardless of whether any of these messages are used, there are no guarantees that they will work. You are stuck between a rock and a hard place, as you watch your child struggle with the competition and in some cases the spill over into normal everyday life.
At this stage, it is a vital as a parent to look at the best interests of your child as opposed to your desires to see them succeed, this is all the more difficult when you can see them perform so well in training and know they are perfectly capable of executing the skills and decision making that is eluding them.
Many parents can also fall into the trap of thinking that it is something their child is in control of, I can guarantee you that if it was that easy, they would not be making themselves or everyone else around them miserable at competition time.
So what could be causing the issue?
Nerves – some children struggle with the thought of others watching them, others just get incredibly nervous.
Making mistakes – everyone makes mistakes, that’s how we learn. However, your children may not know this.
Perfectionism – some children are born perfectionists, but it is an elusive goal and can add to the pressure.
Disappointing others – your children may not want to disappoint you or their coaches.
Lack of belonging – it could be that your children are not totally engaged with the sport or feel like they fit within the group.
Scared of getting hurt – this can make your children tentative
A worry of losing – some children worry about the reaction of adults if they do not win the game or competition
How can we help manage the above as a parent?
Nerves – let them know it is ok to be nervous and it shows that they care. Let them know that top sportsmen and women also get nervous but can still perform. Have a consistent match day routine, perhaps play the same music on the way to a game. Children love familiarity and consistency particularly when heading into the unknown.
Making mistakes – let them know that everyone makes mistakes, it is part of the learning process. Share some of your own mistakes or use examples from the TV.
Perfectionism – support your child in focusing on the hard work and improving skills, not worrying too much about the outcome.
Disappointing others – Remind your child that they are playing for fun. Make sure they know you love them and are proud of them on a regular basis regardless of their sporting performance.
Lack of belonging – Are they really enjoying the sport they are playing? Is it right for them? Do they get on well with the rest of the group? Is the coaching a positive experience for them? Keep revisiting these questions and don’t be afraid to move your child if necessary.
Scared of getting hurt – Ensure your child is practising safely. Talk to them about playing the moment rather than worrying about what may happen and set small progress goals, change may not happen overnight.
A worry of losing – Ensure they understand why they are playing in the first place. To have fun and be fit and healthy is a good starting point. Winning and losing are just part of the game. Ensure you as a parent are modelling good sportsmanship at all times, your children will soon follow suit.
Irrespective of what the issue may be, your child’s physical and emotional well-being are what’s really important here and what should always be foremost in your mind in all of your interactions with them.
If your interest in your child’s performance results eclipses your concerns them, then you will end up doing far more, long-term damage to him/her. Great sports parenting is all about being tuned into where your child is coming from and what they are feeling, then communicating back to them that you truly understand and care about their feelings.
If your child consistently does much better in training than they do on match day, don’t be part of the problem. Let go of your performance expectations for them. Focus on some of the processes that we champion so much here, work rate, effective communication, determination, resilience and being a good team mate to name just a few.
Show some empathy, try to understand the pain and frustration that your child may be facing without immediately trying to fix it yourself by increasing the pressure to produce. Keep in mind that under these trying circumstances your child needs a supportive, loving environment from their parents.
They do not need to hear about your frustration or disappointment and they certainly do not need to know in any way that they are letting you down.
They need your unconditional love and support. They need reassurance that the most important thing between the two of you is and always will be your relationship and their feelings, NOT their sporting performance!
Pressure to produce is one of the primary culprits in the creation and maintenance of many performance problems. The pressure can come from the child, it can come from the coach, it can come from the parents, or from a combination of all the above.
As a loving, caring parent you want to completely remove yourself from this pressure equation. Instead, you want to be a source of compassion, support and love. This means that you have to let go of your own performance expectations for your child.
This is NOT an easy thing to do. However, it is critically important that you rise to the task.
A race they were meant to win, a match that did not go their way and disappointment that they were not selected for their school or club team. A list of potential failures through the eye of a child, all with the potential to have a negative impact on their future sporting endeavours.
Children choose to play sport. (Hopefully, in most cases anyway). It’s a voluntary activity and as long as they are going to play sport, it means they will have to agree to certain conditions. One of those conditions is that, at various points throughout their time in sport, they are going to fail. It’s going to happen to your child, whether you want it to or not.
What can you do to assist them as a sporting parent?
First and foremost, you need to ensure that your behaviours are focussed on all of the processes that make up the sporting experience as opposed to the outcomes achieved each week or in competition, and celebrate those processes with your child on a regular basis.
Success in sport isn’t necessarily accomplished with the battles won during competition. Success is accomplished away from it. How does your child deal emotionally with sport and competition? Do they cope when the going gets tough? Do they compete when the stakes are raised and do they bounce back effectively the next time they play or do they suffer from a type of hangover from the previous experience?
Failure will come at some point. You need to help support your children to be mentally and emotionally equipped to deal with it. Here’s several ways you can do just that.
Work on changing their overall mindset towards failure – Stop them fearing it.
From a young age, children are essentially brainwashed and conditioned to fear losing and failure. Parents, coaches, teammates, friends convince them that failure is some kind of awful thing, creating environments where children are unable to express themselves, try new things and be creative.
The reality is that the most successful, happy, emotionally balanced athletes don’t fear failure. It’s not something that scares them. They are merely playing the game, have it all in perspective and are having fun.
The types of question you ask them as a sporting parent post match and post training will help with this, what you value at home and your overall attitude towards your child’s sport can have a huge impact on helping to change this fearful mindset.
The biggest impact you can have as a parent in helping your child bounce back quickly from failure is not done after the failure has already happened. It is in being proactive before the failure even happens.
It comes from you and your child changing your overall mindset and outlook towards failure and not seeing it as some dreadful event to be afraid of. As a result, when failure does arrive you are able to move on and past it with relative ease.
There’s always the next race, the next match, the next trial or even the next season. There’s always going to be the next opportunity and as a parent you need to be emphasising this to your child.
If you have created a positive sporting environment at home and one that does not define your child on their sporting prowess then both of you will be in a happy place regardless of any sporting success or failure.
Don’t allow them to create a false narrative in their mind.
This is so, so common. A young player will fail at something, and then almost immediately, they start the process of convincing themselves of some kind of false narrative. They weave a story in their mind along the lines of, “If I failed today, I’m probably going to fail tomorrow”, or numerous other kinds of negative plots they plant into their head.
There is no connection between the past and the present. Whatever results they achieved yesterday, will have no real impact on or have anything to do with what they are capable of achieving today.
You can help your child by creating a blank canvas every time they play their sport. Try not to bring up past mistakes or negative experiences. New day, new start! This can be easier said than done but it does create a far healthier environment.
To help your child bounce back quickly from failure, remind them that what happened today/yesterday is done, and what happens tomorrow is going to be dictated by what they do that day, not by what’s happened before.
Turn a negative into a positive
Are you able to use the experience of failure for your child and turn it into a positive learning opportunity?
Can you help them to see failure for what it truly is – an opportunity to expose their weaknesses so that they can see precisely where they need to improve themselves and so that they can allow themselves to succeed in the future.
This once again goes back to the importance of focussing on the processes and not the outcomes. If your child is process driven, the outcomes will take care of themselves anyway.
Encourage your child to be compassionate towards themselves
The scientific research on self-criticism is clear and irrefutable. The more your child harshly criticises themselves, the more damage they will be doing to themselves, both physically, mentally, and in terms of their future success.
Research also shows that self-criticism has a negative impact on goal motivation and goal pursuit, NOT a positive impact.
Are you as a sporting parent, helping create an environment that fosters this? Or do you fall into the trap of bringing up the negatives, criticising the failure and mistakes and not allowing your child athlete to move on?
In order for your child to bounce back quickly from failure, don’t criticise them too much or allow them to be too harsh on themselves. Encourage them, inspire them, and lift them up. Get them to do it for themselves as well. It’s in moments of failure when treating them with compassion becomes the most important thing.
If you can help your child rid themselves of the fear of failure, prevent them from creating a false narrative in their mind, see failure as a great learning opportunity, and be compassionate towards them during these moments, you’ll have done a great job in allowing your child to be able to bounce back from failure effortlessly.
An amazing skill not just in sport but also in life.
Dom Thomas may only be 22, but that isn’t stopping his aspirations of becoming a successful youth coach.
Dom Thomas currently plays for Dumbarton, on loan from Kilmarnock, and has also enjoyed spells at Motherwell and Queen of the South. Despite being in the infancy of his career, Thomas explained he is eager to get into youth football coaching sooner rather than later:
“The way Scottish football is, for me, is that its downfall comes from coaching. I want to make my mark on the game as early as I can." said Thomas.
“It’s frustrating to watch young kids playing up and down the country go into pro youth football and coaching. I feel that the ability gets knocked out of them a bit and they're not allowed to go and express themselves, which I don't agree with. I’ve experienced it myself and I just think the way some players are coached, I just don’t agree with it.”
These thoughts have Thomas determined to provide coaching to youths in his local area of Cambuslang, which he has done through his Dom Thomas Soccer School.
“I set up the academy about a year ago but it mainly consisted of small group sessions. I decided to do some camps over October which I felt was the perfect time to start doing the camps. We’ve had 64 boys come through which is absolutely amazing. It’s good for me also as it taking place in Cambuslang, which is where I grew up playing.”
Thomas, having finished his early youth career, is hoping he can leave a good impression on those who come to his camps: “For me I want to make it as enjoyable as possible. I make sure they play with a smile on their face and make friends. The kids have been polite and well-mannered as well which make it easier for me as a coach.
“Obviously there are serious elements to it but if I get a talented kid in, I tell them to express themselves, take as many touches, and make that great pass. In this country you’re told you need to be big and strong, for me I want to express my kid’s ability.”
Thomas already has plans for the future, and hopes he can continue to influence the way young people from Cambuslang play the beautiful game: “I want to teach the younger age groups what I have learnt from my own experience.
If you have an ability, go and show your ability. Whether that be through my camps or out with your friends, because sooner or later you’ll look back and wish you had done certain things better.”
At a time when grassroots sport faces more government cutbacks, it is important that amateur clubs have a sound understanding of other streams of revenue open to them that can potentially be used to develop and sustain their organisations.
In 2001, following the famous Bosman ruling, FIFA introduced the training compensation system which would apply to clubs who were involved in the training and education of young players. The ideology behind the system was to encourage increased and better-quality training of young players by awarding compensation to those clubs who had been involved and invested in their training and education. At the same time, FIFA also introduced the solidarity mechanism system which provides compensation to former clubs who have provided training and education to a player, each time that player is transferred between clubs of two different national associations in exchange for a transfer fee.
Article 20 of the FIFA Regulations on the Status and Transfer of Players (“FIFA RSTP”) govern the system of training compensation and states that:
“Training compensation shall be paid to a player’s training club(s): (1) when a player signs his first contract as a professional, and (2) each time a professional is transferred until the end of the season of his 23rd birthday. The obligation to pay training compensation arises whether the transfer takes place during or at the end of the player’s contract.”
Further information as to when the system is triggered and how compensation is calculated can be found under Annex 4 of FIFA RSTP. The training compensation system applies to the training and education of players between the ages of 12 and 21, and will only be paid up to the age of 23 for training incurred up to the age of 21. In certain circumstances, clubs who are liable to pay such compensation may be able to establish that a player’s training had already concluded prior to the age of 21 (but this should only be in exceptional cases). The obligation to pay training compensation is over and above that of the transfer fee, although if two clubs agree on a transfer fee this is regarded as being inclusive of training compensation unless stipulated otherwise. Further, it should also be noted that FIFA has advised, in previous disputes, that only the entitled clubs can expressly waive their right to training compensation. Therefore, it cannot be agreed by the two clubs involved in the immediate transfer, that training compensation will be waived by all former clubs involved in the training and education of the player. Only you, as the entitled club, can waive that right.
There are two scenarios where training compensation will apply: -
On registering as a professional player for the first time.
Any subsequent transfer of a player, between two clubs of different associations, up until the end of the season of the player’s 23rd birthday.
Upon the registration of a professional player for the first time, training compensation will be due to all former clubs of which the player has previously been registered and who has contributed to his training since the start of his 12th birthday. In relation to any subsequent transfer of that player, FIFA RSTP allow for only the immediate former club to receive training compensation.
The calculation of training compensation is carried out on a pro-rata basis and associations are instructed to divide their clubs into a maximum of four categories which correspond with the clubs’ financial investment in training players. There is a set figure attached to each category and the sum equates to the average training cost incurred for one player over the course of one year, multiplied by a “player factor”.
The current categorisation for UEFA clubs is as follows:
Category 1 - €90,000
Category 2 - €60,000
Category 3 - €30,000
Category 4 - €10,000
It should be noted that in the UK, England has clubs spanning all four categories whilst Scotland has clubs ranging from categories 2-4 with Northern Ireland and Wales having clubs identified in categories 3-4.
Under FIFA RSTP, training compensation only applies to the international transfer of players (a transfer between clubs of two different national associations, ie. England and Scotland) however clubs/academies should pay particular attention to their national association/league rules and regulations as similar compensation schemes may be due upon a domestic transfer under certain jurisdictions (for example, in Northern Ireland and Scotland).
The rules regarding training compensation apply to both the permanent and temporary (loan) transfers of professional players.
Under FIFA’s rules, the payment of training compensation is the responsibility of the club which is registering the player, and payments should be made within 30 days of the registration with the new association/or the date on which the first professional contract was signed. However, in reality, this often does not happen and buying clubs may hold back on the payment until the entitled club makes a request in writing, or raises a claim with the Dispute Resolution Chamber (an independent dispute resolution service provided by FIFA).
If you think you may be entitled to training compensation, you should contact the buying club in the first instance and if no response is forthcoming, lodge a claim with the Dispute Resolution Chamber in the event of an international transfer or your national association in the event of a domestic transfer and a similar scheme is available to you under domestic rules.
Clubs claiming an entitlement to training compensation only have two years from the date of the relevant player’s registration with the new club to lodge a claim with FIFA, and this should be taken into account by any club considering any claim.
Unlike training compensation, solidarity payments do not cease to apply upon the conclusion of the season of the player’s 23rd birthday. Instead, the solidarity system continues to apply upon every international transfer until the player retires. In order to claim a solidarity mechanism payment, the claimant club requires to have trained and educated the player between the ages of 12 and 23, and the international transfer has to have taken place whilst under contract.
Under FIFA RSTP, 5% of the transfer compensation agreed with the selling club must be held back by the buying club and distributed to the former clubs involved in training over the time period discussed above. For seasons of which the player was aged between 12 and 15, former clubs shall receive 0.25% of the total compensation whilst clubs who trained the player during the seasons of his 16th and 23rd birthdays shall receive 0.5% of the total compensation. If a player was not with a former club for an entire season, the compensation will be calculated pro-rata.
To put this into perspective when Neymar moved to PSG for a record-breaking transfer fee of €250m, his former club Santos was reported to have received the equivalent of €9m as part of their share of the solidarity contribution. Neymar had been previously registered with Santos for in excess of five seasons, during which time he had been part of the youth squad as well as the first team. Further, youth amateur clubs have also made the headlines for their receipt of solidarity contribution. In 2015, Wallsend Boys Club received a cash boost when they claimed their share of the 5% solidarity contribution from Fraser Forster’s transfer from Celtic to Southampton. In addition, the club also received a healthy cash injection when Jermain Defoe transferred from Toronto to Southampton. More recently Dyce Boys Club, in Scotland, received a six-figure sum following Stuart Armstrong’s move from Celtic to Southampton.
Under FIFA’s rules, the payment of solidarity contribution is the responsibility of the buying club and payments should be made within 30 days of the transfer of the player. However, as per training compensation, buying clubs may sit on the sums until the claimant club requests it in writing or files a with the Dispute Resolution Chamber (an independent dispute resolution service provided by FIFA).
Again, clubs/academies should pay particular attention to their national association/league rules and regulations as similar schemes may be triggered upon a domestic transfer in certain jurisdictions.
If you think you may be entitled to solidarity contribution, you should contact the buying club in the first instance and if no response is forthcoming, lodge a claim with the Dispute Resolution Chamber in the event of an international transfer or your national association in the event of a domestic transfer and a similar scheme is available to you under domestic rules.
As in the case of training compensation, it should be noted that claimants only have two years from the date of the relevant player’s registration with the new club to lodge a claim with FIFA, and this should be taken into account by any club considering a claim because after which time their claim will become time-barred.
The rules regarding solidarity mechanism also apply to both permanent and temporary (loan) transfers of players.
Whilst transfer fees continue to grow, amateur clubs must take the opportunity to benefit from this significant revenue stream that is readily open to them. Solidarity contribution, in particular, has the ability to provide continuous significant funding to amateur clubs as it continues to trigger upon every transfer, and does not cease at the end of the season of the player’s 23rd birthday. The solidarity mechanism is therefore a vital source of revenue that can assist in ensuring the sustainability of amateur clubs, many of which find it increasingly difficult to raise the funds required to operate year in, year out.
It is important therefore that amateur clubs (1) ensure that they are familiar with the FIFA rules governing training compensation and solidarity mechanism, (2) understand what payments they are entitled to and when they become due and (3) keep track of the movements of their former players.
If your club would like further information or to discuss a matter relating to Training Compensation or Solidarity Contribution, please get in touch on 0131 473 1592 and we would be happy to assist you.
We have all been there as parents on many occasions. We have stood in glorious weather and horrific weather, seen many great performances and seen plenty of forgettable ones.
Sometimes we are in great spirits ourselves, have had a good week at work and have not been rushing around like maniacs trying to get our children to all of their scheduled events.
Other times we struggle to know what day of the week it is and arrive at our children’s sporting commitments with seconds to spare having picked up our Costa coffee that helps us get through the next hour, flustered and probably not in the best frame of mind.
So many external factors can have an impact on what we say and how we behave around our children and perhaps none more so than after a match or a training session. I really get it that watching our children play sport is one of the greatest things, particularly when it all goes well and according to plan. However, what happens when things do not or we have had that bad week at work?
Have you ever thought or reflected on how you may behave afterwards with your child or is it dependent on how they have performed or how you are feeling? To some extent of course it is.
Having reflected on this we felt it a good idea that no matter how you may be feeling inside, no matter how bad your week has been, no matter how stressed you are that there are a few questions that you can ask your child that allow both you and them to be positive about the experience that you have just watched, regardless of their performance.
POSITIVE PHRASES AND QUESTIONS YOU COULD SAY OR ASK
‘I love you’ – First and foremost, you are their parent, not their coach. Remind them that your love is not conditional on their performance or the result. The comfort and support that comes from hearing ‘I love you’ will stay with your child long after memories of the match fade.
‘I’m proud of you’ – Research into the fear of failure consistently shows that the fear of shame and disappointment is the biggest in youth sport. Telling your child that you are proud will help reduce their worries that they have let you down.
‘What was the best bit?’ – Even if your child has not performed as well as you may have liked, they will have found something positive. It may be the post match hot dog but it allows them to reflect on the positive part of the experience for them.
‘Did you have fun?’ – Sport is meant to be fun. It is why most kids want to take part. If this is the first question you ask, you’ll reinforce this.
‘Who was your best team mate?’ – Foster a belief in your child that it is about the whole group. Ask them for their opinions and don’t be tempted to interrupt and give them all of yours.
‘What did you think you did well today?’ – Another way to increase intrinsic motivation is to focus on how they performed and not what the score was. Again, this allows them to reflect and think about parts of their own performance that they were in control of.
PHRASES AND QUESTIONS TO PERHAPS TRY AND AVOID (NOT ALWAYS EASY!)
‘Did You Win?’ – If you were not watching, undoubtedly the most common question asked by sporting parents. This immediately tells your child that that is the thing that you value most, yet we know there are far more important things that form your children’s sporting experience. Of course you may want to ask this question, just try not to make it your first one.
‘Did you score?’ – Probably the second most common question asked by sporting parents. Again, it gives the child the impression that the outcome is what you value most. What happens if they made five assists, made more tackles and worked harder than any other player?
‘Why Did You Do That?’ – This is all about assigning blame. It is aggressive and your child does not need this type of debrief. Every child will make millions of mistakes and poor decisions, it is really important that we do not put them off making any decisions at all. I know we would like them to learn from their experiences but there are better ways and better times to do this.
‘That was awful’ – This takes the fun out of sport and involves making a judgement call on how they played. At best, you are right that they didn’t play well and this confirms their doubts. At worst, they think they played well and your withering assessment shatters their confidence.
‘False Praise’ – Giving lavish praise can be detrimental to young children. Children can be quite apt at telling when they are being praised for no real reason.
‘You Were So Much Better Than Them/Him/Her’ – Try not to make statements that compare with others. Making comparisons is not a healthy way of helping talent and our children develop.
‘It Doesn’t Matter’ – Of course, in the long run, the performance and result of an U11 match doesn’t really matter; but, at the time, it may matter to your child. It is good to try and provide context, but trivialising the defeat won’t make them feel any better.
Of course, this probably makes a huge amount of sense in the cold light of day, but many things can potentially affect the environment after our children have trained or been involved in a match. Try to keep a couple of the positive phrases up your sleeve! They may be useful as you are calming down and ultimately they will have a far more positive impact on the enjoyment of your child. Remember that is why they are ultimately playing in the first place.