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A parent’s nightmare in many ways. In training, your child consistently out performs other players, looks strong and confident, kicks, throws and hits the ball better than most, but the moment the competition element kicks in they do a disappearing act faster than Houdini!

For coaches it can be confusing, but for parents it is both confusing and painful and often parents do not know where to turn. So what can you do as a sporting parent?

You could gently encourage them, allow them to go at their own pace, which would all seem sensible strategies but many parents can struggle at this stage and often resort to yelling or threatening.

Regardless of whether any of these messages are used, there are no guarantees that they will work. You are stuck between a rock and a hard place, as you watch your child struggle with the competition and in some cases the spill over into normal everyday life.

At this stage, it is a vital as a parent to look at the best interests of your child as opposed to your desires to see them succeed, this is all the more difficult when you can see them perform so well in training and know they are perfectly capable of executing the skills and decision making that is eluding them.

Many parents can also fall into the trap of thinking that it is something their child is in control of, I can guarantee you that if it was that easy, they would not be making themselves or everyone else around them miserable at competition time.


So what could be causing the issue?

Nerves – some children struggle with the thought of others watching them, others just get incredibly nervous.

Making mistakes – everyone makes mistakes, that’s how we learn. However, your children may not know this.

Perfectionism – some children are born perfectionists, but it is an elusive goal and can add to the pressure.

Disappointing others – your children may not want to disappoint you or their coaches.

Lack of belonging – it could be that your children are not totally engaged with the sport or feel like they fit within the group.

Scared of getting hurt – this can make your children tentative

A worry of losing – some children worry about the reaction of adults if they do not win the game or competition


How can we help manage the above as a parent?

Nerves – let them know it is ok to be nervous and it shows that they care. Let them know that top sportsmen and women also get nervous but can still perform.  Have a consistent match day routine, perhaps play the same music on the way to a game. Children love familiarity and consistency particularly when heading into the unknown.

Making mistakes – let them know that everyone makes mistakes, it is part of the learning process. Share some of your own mistakes or use examples from the TV.

Perfectionism – support your child in focusing on the hard work and improving skills, not worrying too much about the outcome.

Disappointing others – Remind your child that they are playing for fun. Make sure they know you love them and are proud of them on a regular basis regardless of their sporting performance.

Lack of belonging – Are they really enjoying the sport they are playing? Is it right for them? Do they get on well with the rest of the group? Is the coaching a positive experience for them? Keep revisiting these questions and don’t be afraid to move your child if necessary.

Scared of getting hurt – Ensure your child is practising safely. Talk to them about playing the moment rather than worrying about what may happen and set small progress goals, change may not happen overnight.

A worry of losing – Ensure they understand why they are playing in the first place. To have fun and be fit and healthy is a good starting point. Winning and losing are just part of the game. Ensure you as a parent are modelling good sportsmanship at all times, your children will soon follow suit.


Irrespective of what the issue may be, your child’s physical and emotional well-being are what’s really important here and what should always be foremost in your mind in all of your interactions with them.

If your interest in your child’s performance results eclipses your concerns them, then you will end up doing far more, long-term damage to him/her. Great sports parenting is all about being tuned into where your child is coming from and what they are feeling, then communicating back to them that you truly understand and care about their feelings. 

If your child consistently does much better in training than they do on match day, don’t be part of the problem. Let go of your performance expectations for them.  Focus on some of the processes that we champion so much here, work rate, effective communication, determination, resilience and being a good team mate to name just a few.

Show some empathy, try to understand the pain and frustration that your child may be facing without immediately trying to fix it yourself by increasing the pressure to produce. Keep in mind that under these trying circumstances your child needs a supportive, loving environment from their parents.

They do not need to hear about your frustration or disappointment and they certainly do not need to know in any way that they are letting you down.

They need your unconditional love and support. They need reassurance that the most important thing between the two of you is and always will be your relationship and their feelings, NOT their sporting performance! 

Pressure to produce is one of the primary culprits in the creation and maintenance of many performance problems. The pressure can come from the child, it can come from the coach, it can come from the parents, or from a combination of all the above.

As a loving, caring parent you want to completely remove yourself from this pressure equation. Instead, you want to be a source of compassion, support and love. This means that you have to let go of your own performance expectations for your child.

This is NOT an easy thing to do. However, it is critically important that you rise to the task. 

Friday, 26 October 2018 11:39

SWF 2018 Annual Awards nominees announced

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The nominees for the annual Scottish Women's Football awards have officially been announced by the SWF.
The awards ceremony aims to celebrate the achievements of the past year, as well as those who put in their hard work and effort to promote the women's game across the country.
And it will be a big night for those nominated in the youth game, with three awards up for grabs in youth categories, alll of which have worthy nominees.
Here is a list of the awards and nominees for the event on the 17th November
SWF Youth Player of the Year
Ami Robertson
The Celtic U15's player has contributed greatly for her team, adding assists and goals to help her team to the summit of the U15's National Performance League, the semi-final of the Scottish Cup and has even lifted silverware, lifting the National Performance League Cup.
Bayley Hutchison
It's been a breakthrough season for Hutchison, who has shown outstanding promise, turning out for Aberdeen Ladies in the SWPL 2 at just 14-years of age. Her form earned her a call-up to the Scotland Under-17 squad, debuting in a 1-0 win over Portugal.
Carly Girasoli
Scotland international Hayley Lauder said in an interview last month with the Scottish Herald that she was amazed by the level of consistencey shown by Carly Girasoli since breaking into the Glasgow City first-team at just 16-years old. The central defender scored on her debut against Rangers and has travelled with the City squad on their European adventure. Hopes are certainly high for the future of Girasoli.
Ellie Cook
The Dryburgh Athletic captain has impressed many this year, leading her team to the SWF North/East Region League Cup as well as the U17's Scottish Cup Final, getting on the scoresheet in the semi-final against Murieston United. Cook has also made her mark at international level, captaining the Clubs of Scotland U17's squad, scoring a hat-trick in the process against Wales.
Eve McFadden
It's been a terrific year for Eve McFadden. Building on a great campaign last season, which saw her lift the Scottish Cup, she has since proven to be a valuable player to the Hibernian Ladies U19 side, helping them to Performance League Cup glory. She also earned a call-up to the Scotland U17 squad, making her debut against Portugal.
Isla Brown
Midfielder Brown has been putting in a number of impressive performances for East Fife at U15's and first-team level. Signed from AM Soccer at the beginning of 2016, she has shown great potential and will surely be a name to look out for for years to come.
SWF Youth Coach of the Year
Allan Telfer
Coaching across many different sports is always a difficult task but it is one that Allan Telfer takes on well. Whilst running his own coaching lessons he has also led a title challenge for the Hibernian Ladies U13's.
Debbie Horn
Debbie Horn has been an active member of Bedlay Community Club since 2014 and has rightfully earned her nomination for this award. Her dedication to coaching has not gone unnoticed and rightfully takes her place among the nominees.
John Beatt
It's been a terrific season so far for Dryburgh Athletic U17's and John Beatt has been a key part of their success. Athletic have already won the North/East Region Cup and sit top of the North/East League. A win in the Scottish Cup Final would be the icing on the cake to round of what has been a very good season.
Tommy Russo
It's been a season of defying expectations for Cove Youth Girls and Tommy Russo. The North Region team are playing their first competitve season this year and reached the third round of the Scottish Cup, beating Aberdeen Youth along the way and narrowly going out courtesy of an extra-time defeat to Lanarkshire Hibs. This feat has not gone unnoticed and Cove will undoubtedly be proud of Russo for all his work.
SWF Youth Team of the Year
Aberdeen FC Ladies Dons U13's Dev
A nomination for Team of the Year is not a bad way to round of a great season for Aberdeen U13's. An appearance in the final of the North Region League Cup and currently sitting top of the North Kim Little League, it has certainly been a season to remember for the Dons.
Celtic U15's 
There is plenty to be proud of from a Celtic perspective this year. A win in the final of the National Performance League Cup Final as well as an apperance in the semi-finals of the Scottish Cup and sitting in first place, with a game in had, in the National Performance League. A great campaign for the Ghirls in Green.
Dryburgh Athletic
Dryburgh are a club on the rise. A new partnership with Dundee United secures their long-term future and they have a Scottish Cup Final to look forward to. Add to that a North/East Region League Cup triumph and an excellent chance of winning the East/North League and things are looking up for Athletic.
Hibernian Ladies U19's
A good season so far for Hibernian that could still get better. A big win against Rangers to lift the National Performance League Cup as well as a number of plyers earning youth international call-ups. They were beaten to the Performance League by Celtic, but Hibernian have earned their place among the nominees.
Congratulations to all of those nominated and good luck on the 17th November!!

A race they were meant to win, a match that did not go their way and disappointment that they were not selected for their school or club team.  A list of potential failures through the eye of a child, all with the potential to have a negative impact on their future sporting endeavours.

Children choose to play sport. (Hopefully, in most cases anyway). It’s a voluntary activity and as long as they are going to play sport, it means they will have to agree to certain conditions. One of those conditions is that, at various points throughout their time in sport, they are going to fail. It’s going to happen to your child, whether you want it to or not.


What can you do to assist them as a sporting parent?

First and foremost, you need to ensure that your behaviours are focussed on all of the processes that make up the sporting experience as opposed to the outcomes achieved each week or in competition, and celebrate those processes with your child on a regular basis.

Success in sport isn’t necessarily accomplished with the battles won during competition. Success is accomplished away from it.  How does your child deal emotionally with sport and competition?  Do they cope when the going gets tough?  Do they compete when the stakes are raised and do they bounce back effectively the next time they play or do they suffer from a type of hangover from the previous experience?

Failure will come at some point. You need to help support your children to be mentally and emotionally equipped to deal with it. Here’s several ways you can do just that.


Work on changing their overall mindset towards failure – Stop them fearing it.

From a young age, children are essentially brainwashed and conditioned to fear losing and failure. Parents, coaches, teammates, friends convince them that failure is some kind of awful thing, creating environments where children are unable to express themselves, try new things and be creative.

The reality is that the most successful, happy, emotionally balanced athletes don’t fear failure. It’s not something that scares them.  They are merely playing the game, have it all in perspective and are having fun.

The types of question you ask them as a sporting parent post match and post training will help with this, what you value at home and your overall attitude towards your child’s sport can have a huge impact on helping to change this fearful mindset.

The biggest impact you can have as a parent in helping your child bounce back quickly from failure is not done after the failure has already happened. It is in being proactive before the failure even happens.

It comes from you and your child changing your overall mindset and outlook towards failure and not seeing it as some dreadful event to be afraid of. As a result, when failure does arrive you are able to move on and past it with relative ease.

There’s always the next race, the next match, the next trial or even the next season. There’s always going to be the next opportunity and as a parent you need to be emphasising this to your child.

If you have created a positive sporting environment at home and one that does not define your child on their sporting prowess then both of you will be in a happy place regardless of any sporting success or failure.


Don’t allow them to create a false narrative in their mind.

This is so, so common. A young player will fail at something, and then almost immediately, they start the process of convincing themselves of some kind of false narrative. They weave a story in their mind along the lines of, “If I failed today, I’m probably going to fail tomorrow”, or numerous other kinds of negative plots they plant into their head.

There is no connection between the past and the present. Whatever results they achieved yesterday, will have no real impact on or have anything to do with what they are capable of achieving today.

You can help your child by creating a blank canvas every time they play their sport.  Try not to bring up past mistakes or negative experiences.  New day, new start!  This can be easier said than done but it does create a far healthier environment.

To help your child bounce back quickly from failure, remind them that what happened today/yesterday is done, and what happens tomorrow is going to be dictated by what they do that day, not by what’s happened before.


Turn a negative into a positive

Are you able to use the experience of failure for your child and turn it into a positive learning opportunity?

Can you help them to see failure for what it truly is – an opportunity to expose their weaknesses so that they can see precisely where they need to improve themselves and so that they can allow themselves to succeed in the future.

This once again goes back to the importance of focussing on the processes and not the outcomes.  If your child is process driven, the outcomes will take care of themselves anyway.


Encourage your child to be compassionate towards themselves

The scientific research on self-criticism is clear and irrefutable. The more your child harshly criticises themselves, the more damage they will be doing to themselves, both physically, mentally, and in terms of their future success.

Research also shows that self-criticism has a negative impact on goal motivation and goal pursuit, NOT a positive impact.

Are you as a sporting parent, helping create an environment that fosters this?  Or do you fall into the trap of bringing up the negatives, criticising the failure and mistakes and not allowing your child athlete to move on?

In order for your child to bounce back quickly from failure, don’t criticise them too much or allow them to be too harsh on themselves. Encourage them, inspire them, and lift them up. Get them to do it for themselves as well.  It’s in moments of failure when treating them with compassion becomes the most important thing.

If you can help your child rid themselves of the fear of failure, prevent them from creating a false narrative in their mind, see failure as a great learning opportunity, and be compassionate towards them during these moments, you’ll have done a great job in allowing your child to be able to bounce back from failure effortlessly.

An amazing skill not just in sport but also in life.

Dom Thomas may only be 22, but that isn’t stopping his aspirations of becoming a successful youth coach.

Dom Thomas currently plays for Dumbarton, on loan from Kilmarnock, and has also enjoyed spells at Motherwell and Queen of the South. Despite being in the infancy of his career, Thomas explained he is eager to get into youth football coaching sooner rather than later:

“The way Scottish football is, for me, is that its downfall comes from coaching. I want to make my mark on the game as early as I can." said Thomas.

“It’s frustrating to watch young kids playing up and down the country go into pro youth football and coaching. I feel that the ability gets knocked out of them a bit and they're not allowed to go and express themselves, which I don't agree with. I’ve experienced it myself and I just think the way some players are coached, I just don’t agree with it.”

These thoughts have Thomas determined to provide coaching to youths in his local area of Cambuslang, which he has done through his Dom Thomas Soccer School.

 “I set up the academy about a year ago but it mainly consisted of small group sessions. I decided to do some camps over October which I felt was the perfect time to start doing the camps. We’ve had 64 boys come through which is absolutely amazing. It’s good for me also as it taking place in Cambuslang, which is where I grew up playing.”

Thomas, having finished his early youth career, is hoping he can leave a good impression on those who come to his camps: “For me I want to make it as enjoyable as possible. I make sure they play with a smile on their face and make friends. The kids have been polite and well-mannered as well which make it easier for me as a coach.

“Obviously there are serious elements to it but if I get a talented kid in, I tell them to express themselves, take as many touches, and make that great pass. In this country you’re told you need to be big and strong, for me I want to express my kid’s ability.”

Thomas already has plans for the future, and hopes he can continue to influence the way young people from Cambuslang play the beautiful game: “I want to teach the younger age groups what I have learnt from my own experience.

If you have an ability, go and show your ability. Whether that be through my camps or out with your friends, because sooner or later you’ll look back and wish you had done certain things better.”

“Lombardi Associates is an Edinburgh based organisation specialising in football regulation and international sports law. They offer advice and support to sports clubs from grassroots to elite level as well as to players, coaches, intermediaries and governing bodies. Free initial telephone consultations are available to discuss any query you may have with appropriate payment plans available, thereafter, to suit individual needs.”


At a time when grassroots sport faces more government cutbacks, it is important that amateur clubs have a sound understanding of other streams of revenue open to them that can potentially be used to develop and sustain their organisations.

In 2001, following the famous Bosman ruling, FIFA introduced the training compensation system which would apply to clubs who were involved in the training and education of young players. The ideology behind the system was to encourage increased and better-quality training of young players by awarding compensation to those clubs who had been involved and invested in their training and education. At the same time, FIFA also introduced the solidarity mechanism system which provides compensation to former clubs who have provided training and education to a player, each time that player is transferred between clubs of two different national associations in exchange for a transfer fee.

Training Compensation

Article 20 of the FIFA Regulations on the Status and Transfer of Players (“FIFA RSTP”) govern the system of training compensation and states that:

“Training compensation shall be paid to a player’s training club(s): (1) when a player signs his first contract as a professional, and (2) each time a professional is transferred until the end of the season of his 23rd birthday. The obligation to pay training compensation arises whether the transfer takes place during or at the end of the player’s contract.”

Further information as to when the system is triggered and how compensation is calculated can be found under Annex 4 of FIFA RSTP. The training compensation system applies to the training and education of players between the ages of 12 and 21, and will only be paid up to the age of 23 for training incurred up to the age of 21. In certain circumstances, clubs who are liable to pay such compensation may be able to establish that a player’s training had already concluded prior to the age of 21 (but this should only be in exceptional cases). The obligation to pay training compensation is over and above that of the transfer fee, although if two clubs agree on a transfer fee this is regarded as being inclusive of training compensation unless stipulated otherwise. Further, it should also be noted that FIFA has advised, in previous disputes, that only the entitled clubs can expressly waive their right to training compensation. Therefore, it cannot be agreed by the two clubs involved in the immediate transfer, that training compensation will be waived by all former clubs involved in the training and education of the player. Only you, as the entitled club, can waive that right.

There are two scenarios where training compensation will apply: -

  1. On registering as a professional player for the first time.

  2. Any subsequent transfer of a player, between two clubs of different associations, up until the end of the season of the player’s 23rd birthday.


Upon the registration of a professional player for the first time, training compensation will be due to all former clubs of which the player has previously been registered and who has contributed to his training since the start of his 12th birthday. In relation to any subsequent transfer of that player, FIFA RSTP allow for only the immediate former club to receive training compensation.

The calculation of training compensation is carried out on a pro-rata basis and associations are instructed to divide their clubs into a maximum of four categories which correspond with the clubs’ financial investment in training players. There is a set figure attached to each category and the sum equates to the average training cost incurred for one player over the course of one year, multiplied by a “player factor”.


The current categorisation for UEFA clubs is as follows:

  • Category 1 - €90,000

  • Category 2 - €60,000

  • Category 3 - €30,000

  • Category 4 - €10,000


It should be noted that in the UK, England has clubs spanning all four categories whilst Scotland has clubs ranging from categories 2-4 with Northern Ireland and Wales having clubs identified in categories 3-4.

Under FIFA RSTP, training compensation only applies to the international transfer of players (a transfer between clubs of two different national associations, ie. England and Scotland) however clubs/academies should pay particular attention to their national association/league rules and regulations as similar compensation schemes may be due upon a domestic transfer under certain jurisdictions (for example, in Northern Ireland and Scotland).

The rules regarding training compensation apply to both the permanent and temporary (loan) transfers of professional players.

Under FIFA’s rules, the payment of training compensation is the responsibility of the club which is registering the player, and payments should be made within 30 days of the registration with the new association/or the date on which the first professional contract was signed. However, in reality, this often does not happen and buying clubs may hold back on the payment until the entitled club makes a request in writing, or raises a claim with the Dispute Resolution Chamber (an independent dispute resolution service provided by FIFA).

If you think you may be entitled to training compensation, you should contact the buying club in the first instance and if no response is forthcoming, lodge a claim with the Dispute Resolution Chamber in the event of an international transfer or your national association in the event of a domestic transfer and a similar scheme is available to you under domestic rules.

Clubs claiming an entitlement to training compensation only have two years from the date of the relevant player’s registration with the new club to lodge a claim with FIFA, and this should be taken into account by any club considering any claim.


Solidarity Mechanism

Unlike training compensation, solidarity payments do not cease to apply upon the conclusion of the season of the player’s 23rd birthday. Instead, the solidarity system continues to apply upon every international transfer until the player retires. In order to claim a solidarity mechanism payment, the claimant club requires to have trained and educated the player between the ages of 12 and 23, and the international transfer has to have taken place whilst under contract.

Under FIFA RSTP, 5% of the transfer compensation agreed with the selling club must be held back by the buying club and distributed to the former clubs involved in training over the time period discussed above. For seasons of which the player was aged between 12 and 15, former clubs shall receive 0.25% of the total compensation whilst clubs who trained the player during the seasons of his 16th and 23rd birthdays shall receive 0.5% of the total compensation. If a player was not with a former club for an entire season, the compensation will be calculated pro-rata.

To put this into perspective when Neymar moved to PSG for a record-breaking transfer fee of €250m, his former club Santos was reported to have received the equivalent of €9m as part of their share of the solidarity contribution. Neymar had been previously registered with Santos for in excess of five seasons, during which time he had been part of the youth squad as well as the first team. Further, youth amateur clubs have also made the headlines for their receipt of solidarity contribution. In 2015, Wallsend Boys Club received a cash boost when they claimed their share of the 5% solidarity contribution from Fraser Forster’s transfer from Celtic to Southampton. In addition, the club also received a healthy cash injection when Jermain Defoe transferred from Toronto to Southampton. More recently Dyce Boys Club, in Scotland, received a six-figure sum following Stuart Armstrong’s move from Celtic to Southampton.

Under FIFA’s rules, the payment of solidarity contribution is the responsibility of the buying club and payments should be made within 30 days of the transfer of the player. However, as per training compensation, buying clubs may sit on the sums until the claimant club requests it in writing or files a with the Dispute Resolution Chamber (an independent dispute resolution service provided by FIFA).

Again, clubs/academies should pay particular attention to their national association/league rules and regulations as similar schemes may be triggered upon a domestic transfer in certain jurisdictions.

If you think you may be entitled to solidarity contribution, you should contact the buying club in the first instance and if no response is forthcoming, lodge a claim with the Dispute Resolution Chamber in the event of an international transfer or your national association in the event of a domestic transfer and a similar scheme is available to you under domestic rules.

As in the case of training compensation, it should be noted that claimants only have two years from the date of the relevant player’s registration with the new club to lodge a claim with FIFA, and this should be taken into account by any club considering a claim because after which time their claim will become time-barred.

The rules regarding solidarity mechanism also apply to both permanent and temporary (loan) transfers of players.


Whilst transfer fees continue to grow, amateur clubs must take the opportunity to benefit from this significant revenue stream that is readily open to them. Solidarity contribution, in particular, has the ability to provide continuous significant funding to amateur clubs as it continues to trigger upon every transfer, and does not cease at the end of the season of the player’s 23rd birthday. The solidarity mechanism is therefore a vital source of revenue that can assist in ensuring the sustainability of amateur clubs, many of which find it increasingly difficult to raise the funds required to operate year in, year out.

It is important therefore that amateur clubs (1) ensure that they are familiar with the FIFA rules governing training compensation and solidarity mechanism, (2) understand what payments they are entitled to and when they become due and (3) keep track of the movements of their former players.

If your club would like further information or to discuss a matter relating to Training Compensation or Solidarity Contribution, please get in touch on 0131 473 1592 and we would be happy to assist you.

“I got involved in coaching for the love of the game and to help young kids get better at the game they love.”
These are the words of Alasdair More, a footie-mad uncle who has taken great pride over the years in coaching and watching his nephew James, now 14-years-old, develop into a talented young player.
But Alasdair suffers from dyslexia and – inspired by the story of Paul McNeill that was published online by the SFA - he spoke to YFS about the challenges he’s faced in life, and how football has helped him overcome them:
“My dyslexia made me feel less confident,” he reveals. “But getting involved in football helped it grow back, and it’s made me feel like a stronger person.
“Helping young kids improve in the game was a great feeling and it made me feel happy because I know I helped give something back.”
Alasdair was goalkeeper coach at Blantyre Victoria Youth Club (formerly Lanarkshire Boys Club) whilst his nephew was in the 2004 squad and, even though James is a midfielder, Alasdair feels privileged to have had the opportunity to play a part in his development.
He said: “To see such a great attitude in a wee man who loves football is great.
“It makes me so happy to know I helped him out at a young age by putting down cones, doing drills and playing football on the street.
“We’re a very close family, so it’s a special feeling – even now as a supporter – to know that I’ve played a big part in his footballing life.”
James has since moved on to play for Mill United, but before leaving Blantyre he bagged last seasons Player of the Year, Players’ Player of the Year and Parents’ Player of the Year awards and will always be grateful for the support and inspiration his uncle has given him throughout his fledgling career.
He said: “Me and my uncle would practice down the park when I was younger, and he would tell me all about his background in football.
“It made me fall more in love with the game.”
It is estimated that one in ten people in the UK have some form of dyslexia, including ex-Rangers star Steven Naismith, but rather than letting it hold him back, Alasdair has used the adversity to inspire the next generation of footballers; to help them feel comfortable with who they are and to realise that they can overcome any obstacles in their way:
“James knew I have dyslexia and that I wouldn’t let it stop me coaching because I love football so much,” he said. “I started growing in confidence when I saw these young players looking up to me and starting to believe in their own ability.
“It fills me with so much pride knowing I’ve helped these kids fall in love with football and taught them never to give up on their dreams.”
Although he’s no longer coaching, Alasdair is excited to continue supporting his nephew whatever the future may hold, and will always cherish the memories from his time at Blantrye:
“A particular high point has to be coaching the goalkeepers of the 2000’s team when they won the league title, and being involved with James’ team was special,” he remembers. “Now, I watch as a spectator because I want the very best for the wee man.
“I love every second of it.”
Wednesday, 03 October 2018 10:28

WWPIS: The Conversation Afterwards...

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We have all been there as parents on many occasions.  We have stood in glorious weather and horrific weather, seen many great performances and seen plenty of forgettable ones.

Sometimes we are in great spirits ourselves, have had a good week at work and have not been rushing around like maniacs trying to get our children to all of their scheduled events.

Other times we struggle to know what day of the week it is and arrive at our children’s sporting commitments with seconds to spare having picked up our Costa coffee that helps us get through the next hour, flustered and probably not in the best frame of mind.

So many external factors can have an impact on what we say and how we behave around our children and perhaps none more so than after a match or a training session.  I really get it that watching our children play sport is one of the greatest things, particularly when it all goes well and according to plan.  However, what happens when things do not or we have had that bad week at work?

Have you ever thought or reflected on how you may behave afterwards with your child or is it dependent on how they have performed or how you are feeling?  To some extent of course it is.

Having reflected on this we felt it a good idea that no matter how you may be feeling inside, no matter how bad your week has been, no matter how stressed you are that there are a few questions that you can ask your child that allow both you and them to be positive about the experience that you have just watched, regardless of their performance.



‘I love you’ – First and foremost, you are their parent, not their coach. Remind them that your love is not conditional on their performance or the result. The comfort and support that comes from hearing ‘I love you’ will stay with your child long after memories of the match fade.

‘I’m proud of you’ – Research into the fear of failure consistently shows that the fear of shame and disappointment is the biggest in youth sport. Telling your child that you are proud will help reduce their worries that they have let you down.

‘What was the best bit?’ – Even if your child has not performed as well as you may have liked, they will have found something positive.  It may be the post match hot dog but it allows them to reflect on the positive part of the experience for them.

‘Did you have fun?’ – Sport is meant to be fun. It is why most kids want to take part. If this is the first question you ask, you’ll reinforce this.

‘Who was your best team mate?’ – Foster a belief in your child that it is about the whole group.  Ask them for their opinions and don’t be tempted to interrupt and give them all of yours.

‘What did you think you did well today?’ – Another way to increase intrinsic motivation is to focus on how they performed and not what the score was.  Again, this allows them to reflect and think about parts of their own performance that they were in control of.

‘What might you do differently next week?’ – A really important question as this will allow your child to think about some of their mistakes but immediately gives them the opportunity to look ahead and have another go at the following game or training session.



‘Did You Win?’ – If you were not watching, undoubtedly the most common question asked by sporting parents.  This immediately tells your child that that is the thing that you value most, yet we know there are far more important things that form your children’s sporting experience. Of course you may want to ask this question,  just try not to  make it your first one.

‘Did you score?’ – Probably the second most common question asked by sporting parents.  Again, it gives the child the impression that the outcome is what you value most.  What happens if they made five assists, made more tackles and worked harder than any other player?

‘Why Did You Do That?’ – This is all about assigning blame. It is aggressive and your child does not need this type of debrief.  Every child will make millions of mistakes and poor decisions, it is really important that we do not put them off making any decisions at all.  I know we would like them to learn from their experiences but there are better ways and better times to do this.

‘That was awful’ – This takes the fun out of sport and involves making a judgement call on how they played. At best, you are right that they didn’t play well and this confirms their doubts. At worst, they think they played well and your withering assessment shatters their confidence.

‘False Praise’ – Giving lavish praise can be detrimental to young children. Children can be quite apt at telling when they are being praised for no real reason.

‘You Were So Much Better Than Them/Him/Her’ – Try not to make statements that compare with others.  Making comparisons is not a healthy way of helping talent and our children develop.

‘It Doesn’t Matter’ – Of course, in the long run, the performance and result of an U11 match doesn’t really matter; but, at the time, it may matter to your child. It is good to try and provide context, but trivialising the defeat won’t make them feel any better.

Of course, this probably makes a huge amount of sense in the cold light of day, but many things can potentially affect the environment after our children have trained or been involved in a match.  Try to keep a couple of the positive phrases up your sleeve!  They may be useful as you are calming down and ultimately they will have a far more positive impact on the enjoyment of your child. Remember that is why they are ultimately playing in the first place.

Monday, 24 September 2018 14:21

iBaller announce partnership with Cambuslang FA

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iBaller and Cambuslang Football Academy have announced a partnership with the aim of investing more money in grassroots football.
iBaller is Scotland's only permanent football carnival. Based in Glasgow, the carnival is perfect for birthday parties and work gatherings and ensures fun for all ages through high energy and maximum-fun football based games and activities.
The partnership is iBaller's first venture into community football and will aim to donate a portion of their revenues to Cambuslang FA so that they can reinvest in their academy as well as the wider community.
A statement from Louise Reid at Cambuslang FA said about the partnership, "Cambuslang Football Academy are so proud to be working in partnership with iBaller. The kids in the academy will benefit from this massively, whether it will be from birthday parties, days out with family and friends or fun days out with the academy. It is guarenteed to put a smile on the kids faces.
"The academy can't thank iBaller enough for the invitation to be involved in such a fantastic opportunity and offering us this chance to make money from this partnership. All money earned will be put straight back into our academy and will benefit all the kids within the academy and will help to develop the kids further and push the kids forward."
Fraser Hornby turns 19 years old on the 13th of September and his 19th year on earth could prove to be the most important of his career.
The Everton youngster came out of this recent international break in fine form, starting off with a hat-trick in Scotland's Under-21 match against Andorra on Thursday, before rounding off a double against the Dutch, scoring a brace in Doetinchem in a 2-1 win.
This form has put the striker's name into the spotlight, with Scotland Under-21 coach Scot Gemmill predicting an influx of interest for the target man, who is open to the idea of a loan move away from Merseyside in January.

He said: “I’m delighted for Fraser. You can see a young player starting to emerge and he’s developing all the time.

"He had a good tournament in Toulon in the summer and he’s really benefited from playing against those sort of teams.

“He’s got that physicality which is important but Fraser is not just about that. It’s about intelligence, a willingness to do the work and the talent as well. In football today you need the full package but he is definitely on schedule.

“I’m thrilled he’s come home to play in Scotland in an important qualification match and done so well.

“I’m sure clubs are queuing up to take him on loan now.”

Whether Hornby will take up the option of moving away is another factor to consider. The youngster has set his aspirations high this season and hopes to force his way into Everton manager Marco Silva's plans for this season.

What is certain is that Everton defnitely view Hornby as a valuable asset to the English Premier League club. Hornby made his first-team debut in a Europa League tie against Apollon Limassol, playing 82 minutes in a 3-0 victory, and he has also won the club's coveted Keith Tamlin award, an award given to a player for their “excellence, attitude and application” during their time in Everton's Academy.

And if that already wasn't enough hype to live up to, he has also been taken under the wing of Everton icon Duncan Ferguson. Standing at 6ft 2in, Hornby certainly measures up well against Ferguson and it is clear to see that his partnership with the former Scotland international has had a positive impact.

“Duncan’s a fantastic person to learn off" said Hornby during the summer

"I’ve had the pleasure of training with the first team quite a lot over the last few months and he’s been really good with me.

“I think he understands that I’m still learning the position (Hornby was signed from Northampton as a midfielder). So I’m taking all of his advice on board and hopefully it’ll make me a better player.

“I’ve got two sides to me. I’ve got a side to me off the pitch but when I go on it, it’s all business for me. I like to put myself about in the right way. But off the pitch, it’s important to have a balance of being calm before you cross that white line.

“The best bit of advice he’s given me is to always be in the box.

"Pundits often say about strikers that they’re in the best place at the right time. But, if you can get yourself into the best position all the time, you've got a better chance of scoring goals.”

(Photo courtesy of Kilmarnock FC)

Jack Paterson raised a few eyebrows when he left Kilmarnock in September 2017. The young midfielder had already been drafted into the first team squad by Lee Clark, even making the bench twice. But, with one post on Instagram, the midfielder announced he was leaving his boyhood club of nine years.

His destination? Doha, Qatar. His dad had been offered a job in the Arab Gulf, and Jack moved with the family.

“I went over to Qatar and spoke to a few clubs and then I went to train with Al-Gharafa.”

Al-Gharafa are a relatively successful club in Qatar, playing in nearby Al Rayyan. They’ve won the league seven times, with the last win coming in 2010, and they also won the Qatari Stars Cup (Qatar’s version of the League Cup) this year. Notable former players include Marcel Desailly, Ze Roberto, and Juninho Pernambucano, and there’s one current star plying his trade for The Cheetahs, but more on him later.

Moving to Qatar was always going to present some challenges, but the former Grange Performance Academy pupil wasn’t too fazed by his new surroundings.

“At first it was quite hard,” Jack admitted. “It was near the summertime when I went, so it was 35-40 degrees. We had to train in the mornings, at about eight o’clock so that it wasn’t too sunny. I found it okay, but at first it was difficult.”

“The Qatari teams were quite good. The team I was training with had Wesley Sneijder, so I was training with him some days, and that was crazy. Vladimir Weiss was there as well.”

“Basically all the Qataris speak English. I didn’t think that would be the case, but it was. Every team was an English-speaking club, so it wasn’t too bad.”

In total, he spent five months in Qatar. Signing for a club would prove difficult given the Qatari leagues foreign player rules, not allowing Jack to sign for a team until he was 23. Instead, he trained with Al-Gharafas under-23s, managing a handful of appearances as a trialist.

He returned to less sunny shores in January 2018, when Kilmarnock’s fortunes had begun to drastically change.

“I just wanted to come back to Scotland basically,” Jack said. “Steve Clarke had just come back to Killie, so I thought it was a good opportunity for me.”

“There were a couple of other teams as well. Kilmarnock had the compensation rule with me. So, if a team from Scotland or England wanted to sign me they had to pay £200,000, so nobody was going to do that,” he laughed modestly.

It’s not too surprising to hear that he was attracting interest, even if his profile had gone somewhat off the radar. His inclusion on the bench against Aberdeen and Inverness had turned heads, but he was also in the first team squad for an October 2016 trip to Celtic Park – an experience he describes as “mental”.

“I think we’d played on the Thursday night, and it was at hom,” Jack explained. “Lee Clark [then Kilmarnock manager] came into the dressing room after the game and he was like that: ‘You’re coming in to train tomorrow with the first team, you’re missing school, and you’re going up on Saturday with the first team.’

“It was amazing. It’s a huge stadium. [Souleymane] Coulibaly scored that goal that day, and I was just freaking out.”

Jack’s journey has taken him from SFA Performance School, to Celtic Park, to Qatar, and back to playing reserve football for Kilmarnock – but he wouldn’t change any of it.

On his time at the Grange, he said: “You can see the boys like Harry Cochrane and all that coming through just now. You get over two hours football training a day, so it’s only going to benefit you and some of the stuff Andy Goldie does really helps. It improves you technically every day.”

Even though his time with Al-Gharafa was short-lived, he doesn’t regret it and even encouraged other youngsters to take the chance to go abroad.

“Playing with players like Sneijder every day, you don’t really get that here. I was meeting new people as well. It was just great, I loved it.

“Obviously, I tried, and it didn’t really work out for me,” he continued, “but I wouldn’t say it’s made me any worse a player. I definitely think it’s a good idea and if an opportunity like that comes up, you should definitely try it.”

So, what now for the one time Football Manager wonderkid? Back at Killie, he wants to force his way into Steve Clarke’s plans, but knows he has to impress reserve boss Andy Millen first.

“We’ve played three games in the reserve league so far - won two and drew one - so hopefully we’ll try and stay up the top of the table and try and win a few more games.

“Personally, I’d like to be challenging to get up with the first team, but you need to be starting every game for the reserve team if you want to be up there. So, playing for the reserves every week is probably my main aim.”

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